Chatting and Running
I'm a stickler for completion. I really do not like boxes unchecked, work unfinished, things left and not tied nicely in a neat little bow. This applies to online profiles. And if you're scratching your head wondering how online profiles and my title go together, be patient. I will tie it up in a nice little bow for you.
We are on a plethora of sites. Pete is responsible for site management, updates, "hunting/fishing," initiating chats, etc. I just do not have the time or the patience for it. There's also the small problem with my inability to keep people straight. (One of the new couples we are chatting with for NIN can attest to this as I recently messaged them that they were a little out of our age range.... except they're not. #wrongcouple #mybad #isuck).
Pete has the big responsibility. I just occasionally surf. I love completed profiles. Ht/wt/age/gender..... All of this stuff is important. If you just answer, "prefer not to say" I assume it's because the answer is something you are not proud of or that you don't want others to know. Honestly, I don't care if you're 5'4" and 465 pounds and identify as a puppy. That may or may not make you my type. However, you're wasting my time AND YOURS if you don't answer these questions honestly and completely. Eye color, probably not a big deal. Ht/wt/play preference are all big deals.
I'm rambling here.... I'll land the plane. Not filling out your profile COMPLETELY, not a huge deal. Not filling out your profile at all - a HUGE DEAL.
Another thing I have come to realize is that many swingers put their profile on autopilot. They enter their information, upload their pictures and never revisit to update. Since Pete and I have started swinging, we have had to update pictures, weights, and our ages. I am not sure if you know this or not, but most sites do not auto-update your age on your birthday. If you have been on a site for 5 years and have never updated your age, you're probably 5 years older than it indicates.
Pete and I were chatting for a few days with a new couple. We liked their profile. Their pictures were pretty. They seemed like a really cute couple. Side note: this couple caused us to change the way we chat. Any-who. We were kik'ing them one night and had a pretty decent conversation going. Usually, we don't chat during tub time. Every once in a while, we will make an exception. This was one of those. I was feeling a little frisky and decided to send a sexy picture from the tub.
They responded back with how hot it was and yada yada.... So, another picture went out. Similar response. Then it happened. I asked for them to reciprocate the photos. Which they did.
I looked at Pete and ask him if I messed up conversations. I told him that I did not think these are the people from the profile. We get out of the chat, double check the pictures on the profile. Double check the kik address. Double check everything. And then we realize their profile is a few years old. And by a few years, they were probably one of the initial profiles on this site!
I am pretty point blank and I just asked if the photos on their profile were old.
Their profile was set up pre-kids. Kids with an "s". Like, multiple children had entered the world between the time they set up their profile and when they started kik'ing us. That's fraud, y'all. Seriously. I have had a few kids. If I put my pre-kids pictures up, I'd be more popular. And more people would be pissed when they met me in person.
Needless to say, we thanked them for their time and rolled out.
What you present as your online self should be your actual self. Yes, we all use things to help present our best self, but it should be your ACTUAL self. If you just want to chat with a bunch of radom people you don't know and portray yourself to be Baywatch approved, get in a chat room and have at it. If you want to meet new friends who are like-minded and establish an actual, in-person relationship, be true to yourself. Potential playmates and friends will appreciate your honesty and love your self confidence that much more. Swingers come in all shapes and sizes.
There is no rule that says you have to be a size zero as a woman or a guy with a 32 in waste. On the contrary, swinging promotes variety. I have a "type" but that does not mean that I limit myself to that. First, there are not very many swingers that look like Thor or Jon Snow. So, there's that. Secondly, if that's all I wanted, I would have married a Thor and never thought about swinging. Don't be ashamed of who you are or what you have to offer. Sexiness is absolutely an attitude, not an external characteristic.
On the other hand, if you present yourself as something you are not, and then meet in person or slip an updated photo in, you'll have new friends running for the hills. Not fun.
Until next time.